The Seven Habits of Successful Relationships - Part Two

So how were those 20 second kisses yesterday? Did you do it? Did you take action and move yourself a few kisses closer to an even better relationship?

So today I'd like to share with you Habits number 3 and 4

Success Habit Number 3: An Attitude of Gratitude

When was the last time you were truly thankful to your partner. That you really expressed your gratitude to them for being in your life. I think most couples move through the honeymoon period to a time of laid backness in the relationship when they begin to take eachother and the relationship for granted.

Our mate becomes a bit like a comfortable piece of furniture and we no longer see them in the same light as we when first fell in love. It's like having a scotomoa, our eyes no longer see the person, we just exist side by side, failing to notice the little things our partner does for us and sometimes even failing to notice our partner.

The real secret to successful relationships is to take the time to appreciate our partners, to say thank you and really mean it. To really honour the uniqueness in our loved ones and value who they are.

Take a moment now to write 10 things you are grateful for in your partner.

Success Habit Number 4: Seek to find the Divine.

This is a spiritual principle, however it is one that should you introduce to your relationship, it will quite literally bring your relationship to a new level.

When one seeks to see the Divine in our partners, it is really looking at the whole of their being, seeing the essence of God within them, and looking to love and experience them as God would. Seeking the Divine, means holding onto the belief and faith that our partners are always coming from the Greater Good, that they would never do anything to harm you or the relationship. It means never doubting them or their actions, it means believing in them NO MATTER WHAT.

I know couples find this challenging, I know its not always easy to do this. If you bring this element into the relationship, it is an element that needs to be talked about and shared. It becomes a rule in the relationship, one that is abided by. It is a success habit that can bring about enormous love, respect and connection.

I really encourage you to decide how you can begin to implement todays habits into your relationship immediately.

Remember in life, its the little things you consistently do that make the most difference.

Tomorrow we will have habits 5 and 6.

Until then, may the love be with you.
Maxine

The 7 Habits of Successful Relationships

Your ability to create success in life is determined by the habits that you form.

Aristotle once said, " Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act but a habit"

I truly believe that to have a successful relationship with your partner you need to develop habits that support the relationship. Here are the first three.

Success Habit Number 1: 20 Second kisses

When my husband, Allan and I got married we gave the couples an envelope containing quotes for a happy marriage and one of them was to "have lots of 20 second kisses". This got the conversation going and the lips too!

Think about it when you first meet your partner you spend a lof of time kissing, its feels good! In fact, when you are teenager, you spend even more time kissing and you perfect the art. Kissing FEELS GOOD! however, most couples find that as their relationship stands the test of time, problems, children, and stress, they spend even less time kissing.

I think its true to say that less kissing means less intimacy, which generally means less sex. Successful relationships enjoy a healthy sex life. If you want to improve your relationship get back to basics and start kissing. 20 seconds is long enough to stir up the feelings, and the more 20 seconds kisses you have as opposed to a peck on the cheek, the more likely you are to connect with your partner, and to want more.

Success Habit Number 2: Focus on whats great about your partner

When you first met your partner, you spent alot of time noticing what was great about them, you would tell friends about their good points and what you love. My guess is over time one forgets the good points and we tend to notice what we dont like or what irritates us. With this in mind I want to point out two things:

1. what irritates us in others, is usually something that we dislike or disown in ourselves!!!
2. what you focus on expands!

I'm not going to overload you with anymore today, as I would encourage you to go and practice those 20 second kisses and write a list of the things you love about your partner.

It takes 21 days to make or break a habit, so imagine how you would feel if you did habits 1 and 2 for the next 21 days. Imagine how great your relationship would be.

Tomorrow I will share with you habits 3 and 4...

May the love be with you.
Maxine